I decided to continue my New Year’s resolution of “take every offer to go out”. I met up one night with a friend for Taco Tuesday. She goes to a bar with a friend from work for $1 tacos and a few beers. I was lucky enough to join them that evening. Or so I thought.
We went into the bar & met up with a friend of hers and this woman’s “non” boyfriend…..who introduced himself as a “self-proclaimed loser”. (Okay–he used another word that begins with a ‘p’, but that’s not my style.) Self-Proclaimed was his “usual” self, according to this woman. He was saying innapropriate things & laughing……37 but acts like a 15 year-old who knows mom won’t hear what he’s saying.
I didn’t find him funny, but laughed and bantered with him to be nice & fit in. The first thing I heard about him, after his proclamation, is that his is small but he knows how to use it. I said “Well, that’s good for you then. And the women in your life, right?” and he continued on about his apparatus. Whatever.
Self-Proclaimed began arguing with the woman about talking to other women & my friend was nowhere in sight. He turns to look at me and says “Do you shave?” I ignored him. The bartender (who knows SP well because the guy is there all of the time) says “What the hell are you doing? That’s enough already.” So I looked at SP and just smiled and pretended I had no idea what he was talking about. He said is again and I leaned in and said “I don’t get it” and tried to let it go. He now gets louder and says “Cmon, what is it? Mohawk, Hitler, or….(insert knocking on the bar here)”?
I finally lean in because I had enough and I said “F you” and sat back. He says “That’s not an answer. We want to know”. I said “That was an answer. And here’s more. You really are a P… and you’ve now gone too far”. He leaves for the men’s room….and the woman said “Don’t be mad. This is him. He’s funny. Just don’t be mad.” I said “I’m not mad. I tried to let him get it that I wasn’t answering and he pushed. Don’t think I am mad but that was enough”. The Self-Proclaimed Loaer said “I just said to your friend that you hate me and I think you’re arrogant anyway”. I said “That’s nice. You can proclaim yourself to be a P and that’s funny too, but when you go too far it’s the other person who is whatever and nothing on you”.
SP disappeared for a couple of minutes and came back and said he wanted to apologize and put out his hand. I said that was fine but I was not shaking his hand. This offended him more. Oh well!
I dropped off my friend & we chat about this for a moment & she said he is a jackass & this is how men are. I said “This is not how men are. My exes would not behave this way in front of me & towards a woman they didn’t know. My friends John or Doug? My brother & his friends? Guys I know would NEVER do this. Your friend needs to raise her standards. This guy is 37, divorced, has 2 kids, treats her like crap because she thinks that’s all she’s worth, and this is why HE is that way.”
Is this all that is really out there? Insecure women and the men who treat them like dirt? I’d rather be alone.