Chi-town guy & I had emailed on the site a couple of times & he sent me his number. I called it on a Tuesday night. He didn’t answer so I left a message. He called me back that Thursday night and we chatted for an hour and a half. He seemed really nice. We talked about his having lived in CT for 3 years & Chicago for 7 & now he’s back on LI because he has 2 nieces & 2 nephews that he wants to be near. SO CUTE! We talked about the site. He’d been on 6 weeks…..which is also how long he had been at his job. He’s an advertisement salesman for some firm & does well. Problem? He doesn’t know anyone here & anyone he did know is married & doesn’t know anyone single for him.  I know that story all too well!

He asked me about my job & I told him what I do. Silence. He said he was very impressed, but I got the feeling that his silence was not impression at all.

We talked literature……he likes Alfred E. Newman…..I said “who?”…..he said “Mad Magazine?” I giggled and said I had never read it.

We talked film….he loves Borat & Napoleon Dynamite. I told him I didn’t see Borat & don’t care if I do and that I began crying out of sheer pain 20 minutes into Napoleon.

We left off with meeting at Friday’s the next night around 8 for drinks.

I got up the next morning (Friday) & checked my email & there’s one from Chi-town. “Hey. I am going to cancel tonight. I don’t think we have anything in common. Let me know you got this.”

I sent it back saying “Okay, that’s fine. I don’t understand why you say that when we talked for an hour & a half last night, but if that’s how you feel. Best of luck to you with your job & this site……” and my name.

He sent it back “I think I am too sophomoric for you. You seem serious.”

So I reply “Again, I don’t know you & if that’s your impression of yourself, that’s fine. However, I am a HUGE kid.” and told him some of my silliness. Again, I wished him luck in his pursuit & that’s it.

My date canceled because I am “too serious”. This is why I don’t tell people what I do for a living. This is why I have sat through really bad movies so people won’t say that. I am tired of people in general. And I don’t want to lie to someone because if it works out & I have to finally admit my age, my taste in film, my job…..they won’t like it that I had lied.

I didn’t want to be single. I didn’t want my Ex to cheat on me and to go. I didn’t think this is how things would be. Does it get better?