I am not a big fan of kissing on the first date. A kiss on the cheek or a brief peck on the lips may be fine, but it won’t go beyond that. And, when you are kissing someone, be gentle and take your time.
Too many people look to do some pretty heavy making out on a first or second date. Its as if they are starving. A friend of mine went out with a guy that she met on a site. They sat at Starbucks talking away for their first date. When they left, he walked her over to her car and then kissed her. But it wasn’t a kiss. He somehow managed to suck in her lower lip and wouldn’t release it.
I, too, have been traumatized by what some people think is a good kiss. I had one guy give me some dry, tight-lipped push on my lips that reminded me of what an elderly uncle would do to your cheek. Horror!
And another guy decided that his tight-lipped kiss wasn’t enough for him and proceeded to lick the area around my mouth as I sat there trapped. Just took his tongue and traced my chin and the area between my nose and upper lip. I’m still trying to find the right support group for that one.
Pay attention to the signals being sent by the other person.
I know I sent out big signals to both bad kissers when my body tightened up and I tried to back away. Somehow, they thought that meant lean in further. Nope.
Wanna have a successful first kiss? Use chapstick. Relax. Be gentle. Go slow. Pay attention to signals.