(Disclaimer: I had written this on March 4th but waited to post it. Then Lori, an AOL staff writer posted her article yesterday about something very similar. So, realize that this is not a spin-off of hers. It was and is all mine.)
Scene: a date early on in the getting-to-know-you stage
You have gone out a few times and enjoyed each one. You aren’t sure if you like the person or not. You aren’t sure if the other person likes you or not. Its that vague “waiting game” to see if plans will be made again and if this is going to go anywhere.
You leave feeling pretty good about how things have been going. The other person says “I’ll call you tomorrow”. This is a good sign. Tomorrow comes and no call. Hmmmmmm…….. The next day is the same: no call. Then you start checking your texts and emails to see if the person left you a message that way. Nope. So, that’s it? It’s already over? It barely began!
Be adult about this people! If you go out on one date or a few dates and just ‘aren’t feeling it’, then say so! Call the person and tell them that it was nice getting to know them but “this” just isn’t for you. If you are too chicken to call and its been less than four dates, send an email saying “Thank you but no thank you”.
Nobody appreciates going out on a few dates with someone to have them diappear and not even have the courtesy to mention it. And it seems all too accepted and common in today’s dating scene.
Well, if you want to be a grown-up and go out on dates, then you need to also be able to tell someone when it just isn’t the right fit for you. It goes back to that whole courtesy thing I’ve mentioned in past posts. I’ve done it and received emails back thanking me for at least being honest and not just leaving the guy hanging.
Closure. “It’s a good thing.”