I received an email from the site on a Saturday from Mr. Law. The email he sent sounded intelligent, so I read his profile. He seems interesting, has travelled a lot, and wants someone who “likes the finer things in life”. Hey buddy…if you’re paying I will like them!
So I sent him back an email that was very direct. I told him what I do and a bit about my views & values that I deem important to me & a person I may potentially date. He responded quickly and then gave me his # as he’d be in the neighborhood.
I was driving to meet to meet a friend for dinner so I decided to call. Calling while heading towards a destination is great because if it’s painful, the conversation is extremely limited and the person realizes you are hanging up because of the task at hand, and not the fact that they are making you wish you stuck your finger in your eye and swirled it around for a bit.
Mr. Law had a nice voice, spoke well, and asked me about teaching English. We talked for 20 minutes and all went well. Until the end when he said “We should meet up sometime soon to discuss ‘War & Peace’”. This may seem funny to some of you but he was serious. I had to tell him 3 times that my friend was waiting for me & I had to go. He didn’t get and finally said “Oh. You have to go?” Umm…he was talking about geneology and how he would like to do some medical test to determine exactly where his ancestors are from. That’s great and all but way too heavy for a fist phone conversation, especially when I stated that I had to hang up.
He called my cell the next day & left me the most vague mesage that said: “It’s Mr Law. Going to lunch if you want to give me a call”. I did not hear the Mr. Law part & played it 3 times until I thought I heard that.
And when I was on the internet that same evening he ims me. Here’s how it went:
ML: how are you doing?
ML: Yeah I will probably go to Fla or Mexico this weekend to warm up
me: that’s right, rub it in
ML: well, if we were dating you’d be going with me
me: yeah–I guess that’s how it would work. did you call me today?
ML: yes, from work.
me: Oh, I thought so but wasn’t sure because it was so vague and so soft spoken
ML: Oh, okay. I was at work. I have to be professional.
……randon crap random crap randon crap…………….
me: so, if I may ask, what is it that you do for a living? I told you and we even talked about it a bit, but I do not know what it is you do.
ML: I’m a lawyer for Child Services. I hope you approve.
this is where I got lost……………
me: I only ask because many find my profession to be a deterrent. But not to a lawyer I guess.
ML: only to those uneducated. I find it a HUGE asset
He then went on to tell me how he can not and will not date someone who does not have at least a BA. I pointed out that this does not necesarily mean anything, but he disagreed for his personal reasons. That’s fine. But I felt like I was going up against someone who “thinks who he is”. Being a snob is one thing. An academic snob is another. And full of yourself is something I can not deal with. I would keep trying with him, but I was not promising anything.